Guidelines for identifying the perfect companion

The following is a response to a recent request by email - How do I begin to bring my new, perfect companion into my life?

1. Make a list of everything you appreciate about each one of the people you've been close to in your life. 
2. Combine those qualities into one list.
3. Look at your own self to see how those qualities manifest and
   
4. if they aren't, ask if you're expecting someone else to fill them in for you
5. Look at your own self to see how the things you haven't appreciated about those people are also in you - and do the work to release them (see Ruth's Method for Releasing the Past on the home page of this site)
6. If you're not depending on someone else to fill in missing parts, your companion will be there shortly
7. If you think all those qualities are outside of you, do the work to get where you can accept those qualities as part of you - and therefore of anyone you would build a life with.

It's a truism that the moment we're fine without anyone in our lives, the perfect companion shows up. And, we'll know they're perfect because everything we appreciate about ourselves and the people around us are present in them. So appreciate and enjoy!